Most of today’s family court judges focus on the best interests of the child when determining custody, visitation and child support. Research reveals that children benefit from spending time with both parents.
Therefore, if you are in the midst of family separation proceedings, you are highly likely to share custody with your former spouse. These are some co-parenting tips that can help.
Open the lines of communication
No matter how you feel or what you think, you need to have open communication with your ex. You should work together to support and care for your children, and this requires collaboration that is not possible without open, honest and understanding communication.
If you cannot find a way to speak with your former spouse without hurt or malice, seek a counselor that can help you. Try to focus on your children and what is best for them instead of your own hurt or offense. Use all methods of communication available. Email or text may be best if either of you has difficulty with in-person meetings.
Create a parenting plan
One of the best ways you can avoid disputes and maintain structure for your children involves creating a comprehensive parenting plan. Although you may need some wiggle room every so often, your children’s schedules and your responsibilities as parents should be clear. If you cannot create a plan that works best for all parties involved, work with a mediator or parenting coordinator who can help. Make time to revisit or rework your parenting plan at least every few years.
These are only two of the ways you can make co-parenting easier on you and your former spouse. However, they are the foundation for creating an amicable relationship that benefits your children.