Reducing the stress of a divorce is an essential step to helping you feel better emotionally, psychologically and physically. No one questions the level of stress that a divorce can cause, and it is reasonable to need a break and to regroup once in a while.
Fortunately, because so many people have been through divorces in the past, there are many ways to learn to cope with the stress of a divorce. Here are several ideas that can help you as you manage meetings, court dates and interactions with your spouse.
- Learn balance
One thing that will help you right away is if you can learn how to balance your personal time with time dedicated to handling your divorce. Set aside one or two days a week to respond to letters, emails and calls that aren’t pressing.
- Avoid negative self-talk
It can be easy to feel guilty about a divorce and everything you and your spouse are currently going through. Feeling that guilt is normal, but it could be harmful during your divorce. Guilt tends to make people negotiate less and give up more, so consider seeing a psychologist or counselor if those feelings are weighing you down.
- Be organized
A third idea that can help you stay calmer and be more relaxed is if you get and stay organized. For example, if you have a specific place where you put all letters from your attorney and organize them by date, you’ll be able to find information you’re looking for much more easily.
- Let someone help you
Finally, remember that it is okay to ask someone to help you. You may not be familiar with the laws in your state or what has to happen to move your divorce along. It’s reasonable to ask your attorney to step in and handle major (or minor) issues if you aren’t sure of what to do next.
These are four ways you can reduce the stress of your divorce. With the right approach, your divorce can move forward quickly and easily.